“I was forced into being extroverted from living alone for 10 years.” …… says the person who never met a stranger when he was a child.
During those 10 years, he developed a reputation. He constantly spent time at other people’s houses and would not leave until that person finally said, “I’m going to bed.” or “I have somewhere to be, I have to leave.” He tells me that he just hated going home to an empty house. Um… ok….. well, you have a wife (and now a son) waiting for you at home. So……… why do you still always want to go out? And if you’re not going out, you want to invite people over. Why are you always the last to leave any event or group gathering you attend? I don’t understand…………….
Oh wait, yes I do! It’s because you thrive on social interaction!
If you’re really an introvert, why is it impossible for you to understand my need for alone time? Why is it impossible for you to understand that I don’t really want to attend everything we’re invited to? Why is it impossible for you to understand how I would rather stay home and read a book or watch a movie? Why is it so difficult for you to comprehend my introverted ways?
And why…… why on earth would all your friends just laugh hysterically when I say, “He thinks he’s an introvert”?
No, dear. If you were truly an introvert, you would have treasured that empty house.
“You’re very calm for a new mother.”
Those were the words I heard from the doctor when I took my 1 week old son in for a checkup.
And there have been similar comments, such as: “You look very at ease for this being your first.” “You’re a very relaxed mom.” etc.
Yeah, well….. You think that, if it gives you comfort. I must be good at fooling people.
Sure, I have lots of childcare experience. I helped raise 5 younger siblings and did a bit of babysitting on the side. I started learning how to take care of babies as a small 7-year-old, when my first little brother was born. My mom even taught me how to change cloth diapers. (with diaper pins and everything!) I’ve experienced raising kids from birth all the way through the teen years. I wasn’t going into this blind.
But you didn’t see me at 4:00am standing next to my baby’s little bed as he lay naked, cold, and inconsolable under the bili light. No one saw me standing there for more than 2 hours straight, exhausted from labor/childbirth and lack of sleep, my feet and back in pain… crying, angry, and heartbroken as I tried to comfort him the best I could without picking him up.
You didn’t see me sitting Indian style in the floor rocking back and forth like I belonged in a psychiatric ward, cuddling my newborn with tears streaming down my face because he keeps spitting up and I don’t know why.
You don’t see me frustrated because it takes me 3 times as long to get ready when I need to leave the house, many times just wanting to give up and stay home.
You don’t see me driving with one arm awkwardly reaching into the back seat to hold his pacifier in his mouth because he keeps losing it and screaming.
And so on……………….
You think I have it all under control? Think again.
Is it possible? Is it necessary? Here’s a great post from my new favorite blog.
Why It’s Important To Keep A Tidy Home While Your Children Are Young
Most of us young homemaking mamas grew up with people like Martha Stewart and magazines like Good Housekeeping, Southern Living…the list goes on. All of these sources told us that we had to strive for perfection. Perfection in decor, cleanliness, and all things “home”. Many women busted their behinds to match the pictures in the magazines they were reading, or worse-they gave up completely, feeling inferior, feeling “why bother” since their time, budget, and creative juices couldn’t hold a candle to the likes of The Great Martha.
In answer to this extreme standard of unrealistic homemaker-ness, I’ve seen a pull in the opposite direction, mostly in the past few years. The pull, I believe is too far in that opposite direction. This school of thought is more like ‘who cares about the house, we’re raising precious little minds here!’ and little signs hung such as ‘don’t mind the mess, we’re making memories’. As a result, kiddos are being raised without the skills needed to take care of their belongings, their surroundings, and taking pride in their dwelling. I have no judgement for either of these “extremes”, we all lean toward an extreme from time to time-I’m merely offering, what I think is a perspective with a solution.
Read the rest of what Heather has to say here.
Popular things I find strange or a little disturbing
I see these things on Pinterest and facebook all the time and I just have to ask myself why…………
footprints made into pictures
elf on the shelf
There are times when I see a book or hear a title and it sounds familiar, I think I may have read it but I don’t remember for sure. (That kinda just happens when you’ve read hundreds of books.) Then there are times when I read a book and almost every detail sticks with me. It makes such an impression on my mind and I remember it for a very long time.
This was a facebook tag that I was tagged in recently. It says to list ten books that have stayed with you in some way. Don’t think about it too hard, just put down ten books that have somehow become part of you.
These are not necessarily my top 10 favorites. Some of these I’ve read more than once, and some I read years ago and still think about them from time to time.
1. the Bible
2. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte
3. Shepherd of the Hills by Harold Bell Wright
4. Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens
5. Uncle Tom’s Cabin by Harriet Beecher Stowe
6. Voyage on the Great Titanic (Dear America)
7. Twilight of Courage by Brock & Bodie Thoene
8. Knowledge of the Holy by A.W. Tozer
9. Phantom of the Opera by Gaston Leroux
10. Shakespeare’s Sonets
So what are your 10?
A couple of months ago, my cousin gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. My cousin was born with spina bifida and after trying for about 5 years and finally being told she would probably never be able to get pregnant, God gave her a miracle. I wanted to give her a special gift, so I decided on handmade baby shoes. I’m so pleased with how they turned out! (I used this pattern that I bought online.)
My first (unsuccessful) attempt at making this pattern was done using an old purse, like here. It was definitely much easier to make them with cotton fabric. But I have another leather purse I bought at a yard sale, so I’ll give it another try sometime. I’d like to try my hand at this too – upcycled shopping bag shoes.
Perhaps by using this technique of fusing plastic shopping bags.
I’m really hoping our baby is a girl so I can make her all kinds of adorable shoes!!